ohjooy:
“In so many ways, losing a close friend is worse than losing a lover. Lovers are transient for the most part but friends are supposed to be there for you always, or so we like to believe. Friendship is a special kind of love that’s not supposed to fade. You never expect the one person you thought you could always depend on to disappear without saying goodbye. And when they do you feel sickeningly stupid and cheated, wondering what you meant to them all along, whether you were just convenient or in the right place at the right time. You never really know for sure.”
Continued →
It’s like they took the words straight from my mouth.
There’s a few people I really want to send this to.
2 days ago
My favorite,
31. Today, my 12-year-old son, Sean, and I stopped by the nursing home together for the first time in several months. Usually I come alone see my mother who’s suffering from Alzheimer’s. When we walked into the lobby, the nurse said, “Hi, Sean!” and then buzzed us in. “How does she know your name?” I asked. “Oh, I swing by here on my walk home from school all the time to say hi to Grandma,” Sean said. I had no idea.
A close second is
55. Today, my mother passed away after a long battle with cancer. My best friend lives 2000 miles away and called to comfort me. While on the phone, he asked, “What would you do if I showed up at your house and gave you the biggest hug in the world?” “I would surely smile,” I replied. And then he rang my doorbell.
I’m going to shut up and stop complaining now.
Thanks for showing me this @jennjennifer… I needed a bunch of tissues to get through it.
1 month ago
People tend to sleep in 90 minute cycles (yay Psychology B!) so if you wake up at the end of a said cycle, you will feel much more awake and less groggy. If you wake up in the middle of the cycle, especially in delta sleep, you’ll feel much more tired. And if you wake up during REM sleep, which is near the end of the cycle, you’ll tend to remember dreams because that is the stage in which our muscles are relaxed but our brains are working—resulting in dreams.
You should try it. It works (at least it did for me). People who sleep longer (i.e., eight hours) will actually feel more tired than those who sleep for a shorter amount of time (i.e., six hours) but are sleeping and waking by the cycle. That’s why some people claim that they feel more rested after staying up very late and only sleeping three hours (two cycles!) compared to those who slept longer but didn’t adhere to the cycles.
This links takes you to a website which I use to quickly calculate when I should sleep. Sure, I can do the simple math itself, but what’s cool about sleepyti.me is that you set when you want to wake up, and it gives you all the times (reasonable ones) that you should go to sleep in order to wake up according to the sleep stages and its cycles.
3 months ago
How much does your life weigh? Imagine for a second that you’re carrying a backpack. I want you to pack it with all the stuff that you have in your life… you start with the little things. The shelves, the drawers, the knickknacks, then you start adding larger stuff. Clothes, tabletop appliances, lamps, your TV… the backpack should be getting pretty heavy now. You go bigger. Your couch, your car, your home… I want you to stuff it all into that backpack. Now I want you to fill it with people. Start with casual acquaintances, friends of friends, folks around the office… and then you move into the people you trust with your most intimate secrets. Your brothers, your sisters, your children, your parents and finally your husband, your wife, your boyfriend, your girlfriend. You get them into that backpack, feel the weight of that bag. Make no mistake your relationships are the heaviest components in your life. All those negotiations and arguments and secrets, the compromises. The slower we move the faster we die. Make no mistake, moving is living. Some animals were meant to carry each other to live symbiotically over a lifetime. Star crossed lovers, monogamous swans. We are not swans. We are sharks.
-Ryan Bingham (played by George Clooney) / Up in the Air
4 months ago
“Every level of government now spends less of its money investing for the future and more and more on consumption for the present.”
Zakaria never fails to prove a point. America isn’t as great as it used to be, face it. Then work to change it, don’t just deny it.
4 months ago
